"extended family"

Oh, you didn't think that crazy conversation ended when I signed off Facebook the other night, did you?

Her

I didnt put anything in his head, he asks questions and I told him that I IIIIIIIIII had to have done something to push everyone away. I know that you are sick and I am sorry. If I could see you I would but we don't have money to travel to (town) 72 miles away much less 3 states away. I never said it was your fault and I never asked of anything of you. I'm sorry I wanted you to see your nephews, forgive me for being selfish in wanting them to see you since you may die (I'm not stupid my mother in law has the same disease so I know what will happen) before I EVER get to see you

Her

As always everything is my fault. I chose to have kids and should of known that no one would care, b/c they are not yours to have to care for. I didn't realize I was extended family I thought I was your sister but once again I am mistaken. I don't need the visit, i don't want you to come out of pity so don't come at all. We haven't seen each other this long what is waiting until I have the money and means to make to AZ. I don't want you to feel like you have to be in their lives I just thought it would be nice if they knew of the family they had. Once again I'm sorry I asked to see you and bothered you with my petty little life.

Me

I don't understand why you are mad at me for trying to come to visit and asking if you could meet me. How is that at all related to any of this "it's someone's fault" mess you're talking about? I don't understand the "YOUR FAMILY" and "extended family" comments--you are my family and, by definition, your kids are my extended family. I have no pity for you; I never begrudge anyone the choices they make, especially to have children. Just cause they aren't mine doesn't mean I don't care; in fact, it would be nice to get updates every once in a while. I would like to see the boys, but if I don't see them, that doesn't mean I don't care. It seems that you feel that it is my responsibility to see all of my siblings (including the five you don't know) or I'm being selfish. "I told him that I IIIIIIIIII had to have done something to push everyone away" What? Why? Why would you say that? Why would you say that to a kid? Stop trying to find fault with everything I say or do when you know that I am making an effort. And who says petty little life? I'm not the one judging you--you're doing it to yourself. Have some respect for yourself and your life or make changes to be happy. I just want you to be happy and I'm really sorry that my trip planning upset you.

Her

I am mad that would think I would intentionally break my vehicle to sabotage this visit. Also that you would think I talk badly about you or Mike to the boys cause that is not the case.

Me

You have an amazing ability to misunderstand or misread. I did not say anything about you sabotaging anything or intentionally breaking your vehicle--such a thing never occurred to me. You may not be talking badly directly about us but if you say that you pushed everyone away, you are probably giving us a bad association in the kids' minds. (kind of an us vs. them thing.) Just be careful, okay, and stop being mad already.

Her

k

OMG, I may die! I'm trying to be calm and rational. How am I doing? I don't know that it will work out seeing her and her family during our trip and I will be very disappointed. Bummer.

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